Make the Windows handler reentrancy-safe (fix "already borrowed" panic on resize)

[aidan729]

Problem

On Windows, WindowState::handle_on_frame and handle_event hold
self.handler.borrow_mut() for the full duration of the user's on_frame /
on_event callback. If the callback causes Windows to synchronously dispatch
another message into the window procedure, the wndproc re-enters handle_event,
calls borrow_mut() again, and panics with already borrowed: BorrowMutError.

The most common trigger is resizing: calling a host's resize request (or a
SetWindowPos) from inside a handler callback synchronously sends WM_SIZE back
into the window proc. In an audio-plugin host this panic unwinds across the FFI
boundary and crashes the DAW.

This is reproducible whenever a baseview-hosted GUI tries to resize its own
window in response to user interaction (e.g. a draggable resize affordance that
asks the host to grow the editor).

Fix

Use try_borrow_mut() in both handle_on_frame and handle_event and skip the
event if the handler is already borrowed, instead of panicking. The handler is
not reentrant, so dropping the nested call is the correct behavior — the window
state remains consistent and the next genuine frame/event observes the latest
size.

This brings the Windows backend in line with how non-reentrant event loops are
expected to behave and makes it safe to invoke host resize APIs from within a
handler callback.

Scope

• Windows only (src/win/window.rs), two call sites.
• No public API change; no behavior change except that a previously-fatal
  re-entrant callback is now skipped instead of panicking.

[aidan729]

For additional context, someone in the Rust Audio Discord raised a concern about this approach:

"I don't think it's a good idea to throw away events when you get re-entrancy."

My response was that I don't believe anything meaningful is actually being dropped in this case. The re-entrant call isn't carrying new independent input; it's a synchronous side effect of the outer callback. Specifically, the resize API call immediately generates a WM_SIZE and re-enters the window procedure before the original call returns.

As a result, the nested invocation observes handler state while it is mid-mutation, which is exactly why the borrow_mut() panic occurs. For the resize path, window size is effectively level-triggered rather than edge-triggered, the current size remains available as window state and is not a one-shot event that must be consumed immediately. The next normal on_frame / on_event invocation will observe the latest size and reconcile accordingly.

From that perspective, skipping the nested invocation is simply deferring reconciliation until the borrow is valid rather than panicking and potentially unwinding across the FFI boundary into the host.

The main alternative would be to queue re-entrant events and replay them once the borrow is released. I considered that approach, but for WM_SIZE specifically, the event is often already superseded by the time it would be replayed, which introduces ordering and deduplication complexity without an obvious benefit.

That said, if there's a case where a skipped re-entrant invocation carries state that cannot otherwise be recovered, I'd be interested in seeing an example. I wasn't able to construct such a case for the resize path.