refactor: replace hand-coded rollup of expression fallback reasons onto operators

[andygrove]

Which issue does this PR close?

Closes #5230 (steps 1 and 2).

Rationale for this change

Comet records fallback reasons in a TreeNodeTag side channel. Extended explain output only walks plan nodes (ExtendedExplainInfo.sortup follows children/innerChildren, never expressions), so an expression-level reason is invisible unless something lifts it onto the enclosing operator.

That lifting was hand-written at roughly 200 call sites, and nothing forced it. Forgetting the roll-up argument produced a plausible-looking generic "<operator> is not supported" message instead of the real reason, which is why the bug slipped through review twice before (#2323, #2716). The codebase already contained the better design for the other tag: CometExecRule.rollUpInfoMessages does the identical job once, centrally.

What changes are included in this PR?

Step 1 — strict mode. CometExecRule.reportUnexplainedFallback replaces the masking behaviour. When Comet declines an operator whose children are all already native, and neither the operator nor any of its expressions carries a reason, spark.comet.explain.fallback.strict.enabled (internal, default off) throws instead of tagging the generic message. CometTestBase enables it, so the whole test corpus now enforces it.

The check is deliberately scoped to operators a serde actually attempted. An operator with no registered handler was never attempted, so demanding a specific reason there would be wrong — it keeps the generic message. Same for an operator whose children are not native: Comet had no opportunity, so there is nothing to explain.

Step 2 — central traversal. CometExecRule.rollUpFallbackReasons collects FALLBACK_REASONS from op.expressions.flatMap(_.collect { ... }) and tags them on the operator, at the single point where convertToComet returns None. Two details from the issue:

• hasFallbackReason still reads only the node's own tag. It is a planning control signal (CometNativeScan, CometShuffleExchangeExec, CometExecRule), not explain output, and must not observe the traversal.
• The roll-up runs only for the operator that actually failed conversion. That containment matters because AttributeReferences and DPP subquery expressions are shared across operators, so an unscoped roll-up could surface one expression's reason under several unrelated operators.

API change that falls out of step 2. With the central traversal in place the roll-up parameters are dead, so they are removed rather than left as a trap:

• withFallbackReason[T](node: T, info: String, exprs: T*) → withFallbackReason[T](node: T, info: String)
• withFallbackReasons[T](node: T, info: Set[String], exprs: T*) → withFallbackReasons[T](node: T, info: Set[String])
• the pure-roll-up overload withFallbackReason[T](node: T, exprs: T*) is deleted
• QueryPlanSerde.optExprWithFallbackReason is deleted (77 call sites; it becomes the identity once the roll-up is gone)

The compiler now rejects any attempt to reintroduce a hand-rolled roll-up, which also removes the type-safety hole in issue point 4 (the old signature unified T to TreeNode[_], so withFallbackReason(op, op.condition, op.child) typechecked with an Expression and a SparkPlan in the same varargs).

Also drops the var allProjExprs accumulator in CometExpandExec (issue point 5), which existed only to have something to hand to the roll-up.

How are these changes tested?

New tests in CometExecRuleSuite:

• an expression-level reason is rolled up onto the falling-back operator, and the generic message does not also appear
• the strict config is off by default and on for Comet suites
• strict mode does not fire for operators Comet never attempted

Existing suites, all passing with strict mode on: CometExecSuite, CometExpressionSuite, CometAggregateSuite, CometJoinSuite, CometWindowExecSuite, CometGenerateExecSuite, CometExecRuleSuite, CometScanRuleSuite, CometSparkSessionExtensionsSuite, CometFuzzTestSuite, CometFuzzAggregateSuite, CometCastSuite, CometArrayExpressionSuite, CometStringExpressionSuite, CometShuffleSuite, CometNativeShuffleSuite, CometShuffleFallbackStickinessSuite, CometDppFallbackRepro3949Suite, CometCodegenSuite — 1000 tests, 0 failures.

Compiles clean (main + test) on spark-3.4, spark-3.5, spark-4.0 and spark-4.1.

Not run locally: the TPC-DS plan stability suites need SPARK_HOME, which isn't available in my environment. Worth watching in CI, since they assert on the rendered [COMET: ...] segments — the per-node attribution of a rolled-up reason can differ from the old snapshot-at-call-time behaviour.

Step 3 of #5230 (the serializeExprs combinator on CometOperatorSerde) is not included; it is independent and easier to review separately.

[andygrove]

We roll up the expression fallback reasons to the operator once in the framework instead of hand-coding it for every single operator

[andygrove]

@parthchandra could you review this one, since you are familiar with this code?