fix(ui): apply initial select getter

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Summary

• apply the select handler getter after successful initial option rendering
• share the post-options value application between render and update paths
• cover empty selections, custom handlers, render failures, and update ordering

Fixes #177

Testing

• go test -race ./...
• go test -race -run '^TestSelectWidget' -count=10 ./lib/ui
• git diff --check